By Dr. Charles Apoki
Many years ago a young pastor was in my house very early to complain about his wife not washing his clothes unfortunately for him he met hanging clothes I had washed.
He sat for a while and left without laying his complain. It took him several years before he informed me.
My wife washed my clothes every Saturday then, before we had a washing machine. A washing machine was not my priority then.
I was reasonable enough to know that my hard working wife might be tired and I needed to wash some of my clothes myself, especially the jeans trousers and my under wears.
There is no hard and fast rule about marriage.
When she fractured her hand I used to bathe her and do domestic stuff that she would allow me to do.
On Friday before I traveled to give a lecture at
Ute-Okpu, Delta State, I had to wash the dishes I ate with and anything else in the sink.
My wife trained as a nurse /midwife and a very neat and busy wife.
I can’t capitalize on that and kill her with over work now that we are alone in the house.
Don’t ask me about domestic staff, I have more than 100 workers but many are called few are wicked.
By the the time I came back my room was well arranged and my bed dressed.
The picture in this post is my simple bed in my bare bedroom.
My wardrobe is virtually bare. Very few clothes, no suit, no expensive jewelry just like my wife.
No wrist watches, no coral beads, no George wrappers, very few shoes. I do not have any suit currently.
Can I afford them? Definitely many times over.
But they are really not my priority.
There are two philosophies that have influenced me, minimalism and stoicism.
You can make do with the barest minimum and maximize your time, talent and resources to give the best to actualizing your vision and purpose in life.
Simpletons admire popularity, power, position, properties and packaging. They are not diligent enough to analyze the principles and processes that led to such attainment. They are not ready to pay the price and the pain to attain what they admire.
Many times many people end up frustrated.
Success is a destination and a process.
I know you are shocked and even embarrassed to see where I sleep. I meet with my lawyer and the innermost members of my group inside that room.
Madam’s room has air-conditioning as you must understand but I hardly sleep with the fan.
Any thief that breaks into my home will be very disappointed because there is very little expensive stuff he can steal.
I also don’t have much in my accounts. I reinvest a lot.
When you admire people don’t look at status particularly what you see on social media.
Don’t look at statistics displayed, they don’t always reflect the reality.
Don’t look at structures, you don’t know how much they are owing. You don’t also know all they are doing.
A big pastor recently was revealed to be owing a bank a lot of money he took to build his church complex.
Don’t look at style and systems , ask yourself if you can afford them.. style and system and the spiritual cost?
Ask yourself about the cost effectiveness?
Always ask yourself how sustainable are the things you are admiring?
As for me simplicity is powerful and more manageable. It is most comfortable and suitable for me.
Simplicity is more sustainable and less likely to crash.
I enjoy so much luxury in this country paid for because of my relevance. When you are relevant and paid your dues, people pay your bills.
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